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Post edited 2:02 pm – September 9, 2009 by Jason North

I dont know if there is a quick fix on this one, but here goes…

I appear to be EXTREMELY resistant to hypnosis.  Part of it is that I have a hard time really relaxing, and part of it is that I have a hard time getting the ol' monkey mind to be still long enough to get anywhere.  And yet another part is that when I do actually relax, I either just fall asleep, or my apnea kicks in and jerks me awake.  Oh yeah, and don't forget severe ADHD.

I have begun experimenting with adding a 10-15 minute entrainment period (using Mind Workstation) prior to the session, that continues during the session, but that takes a 10-12 minute session to, hopefully, establish a nice alpha state (been working with Hypno Genius for this as a starter).  I can get very relaxed, and if I am only slightly reclined, my apnea doesnt kick in and I stay awake.  Problem is, after about 15 runs through the first Hypno Genius session, the trigger at the end of it hasn't stuck, so I can't really move on.

I have been considering recording my own inductions, but for some reason using a recording of my own voice feels weird.

Wendi, do you or would you be willing to make like a 30-45+ minute induction for us hardheaded folks (like the programs that have pre-inductions) ? Or does anyone have any suggestions on how to get past these obstacles?

Hi Syra,

I am still like that…. I'm more of a caretaker and even a nurturer if they need me. I'm just not a good playmate. I have to make myself sit down & play with them. I never had a Mom who did either. So maybe it's a learned thing. Wendi…. Maybe she's onto  something. Perhaps enjoying our youn ones would be a good session.  Some folks only seem to want to be a best friend to their kids & not parent, teach & or dicipline them….  I do have good relationships with my adult children & they seem to be ok. But I would love to enjoy the younger ones more.

Hi Shyra,

I totally understand what you are saying. Having 3 little ones can be exhausting.

If you have ever seen the nanny shows on tv, you might see how they structure the time and have scheduled play times with mom or activities that are on a chart.

The kids and mom have a special time that is only for this, rather than just hoping you find time or have the energy. Instead of exhausting yourself during that time by chasing kids around or doing chores, you get to RELAX and focus on only one thing- doing a painting together, a craft, playing catch outside, making a cake together.

Consider scheduling this every day, even if you start small. Talk about it a lot so the kids look forward to it as well.

And there is the Positive Parenting CD program that will really help you feel energized with your kids and you will enjoy your time with them more.

Wendi

Shyra Jorgensen said:

Wendi,

I want to be a better mom (I have 3 kids under the age of 6) and sometimes I feel too overwhelmed to want to do anything more with them. And sometimes I know I have hardly done anything with them so I shouldnt feel overwhelmed. Maybe even if it was a broad session that was just about wanting to spend more time with the people you love or your family members, etc. Please let me know what I can do to get over my little voices of reluctance in my head!

Thanks,

Shyra

My kids are now 22 and 25 years old. Believe me, the times when they are young are magical. As difficult as it was to be a single mom, I managed to spend time with them doing the silly and fun things.

Maybe it was because I needed a time to just play!

I remember one time (when we were really broke) I had all three of us empty my big jars of coins. We had all been dumping into them for about a year. They were young, but they totally loved putting these coins into stacks and counting them and rolling them. We had $400 and then took a mini vacation with that money.

Anything can be a cool activity if you make it special and have them look forward to it. As I said in the previous post, put it up on a chart, let the kids expect it and look foward to it. Make it a game for them to find you and hold you to it. Even something as simple as building a tent with huge sheets in the living room is a memorable time.

The time is now, for sure! When they are as big as my kids are, they don't seem to like the tent building and fingerpainting. They like the activity where I hand out money and they say "see ya later". That one is pretty popular now. ;)

Wendi

vzack said:

Hi Syra,

I am still like that…. I'm more of a caretaker and even a nurturer if they need me. I'm just not a good playmate. I have to make myself sit down & play with them. I never had a Mom who did either. So maybe it's a learned thing. Wendi…. Maybe she's onto  something. Perhaps enjoying our youn ones would be a good session.  Some folks only seem to want to be a best friend to their kids & not parent, teach & or dicipline them….  I do have good relationships with my adult children & they seem to be ok. But I would love to enjoy the younger ones more.